Good and Bad and Happy Thanksgiving Early
I confess. I am disappointed. I had hoped to take this week off to celebrate Thanksgiving without stress (or as much as possible). As I said, I'm in a sales career; and my customer depends on me. This time of year is their busiest. This time of year I want to be on vacation. The two don't mix well. After all year of badgering them for "salesy" things to do - pricing, proposing, etc., NOW is when they want everything TODAY. I thought I'd be able to wrap things up today, but I won't. I was up really late last night working. I could barely watch my favorite show Medium! I am trying so hard to count my blessings! I have a job, a great job. My customer is sure showing my value now with all this work! I am reasonably healthy. There's alot to look forward to these holidays!
As you know, I have this big, family holiday get together this week that I am nervous about. The drama will definitely be in full force, and the last thing I want is stress and drama. One year I actually tried to hide out, and one family member sought me out and lectured me about not doing enough! It sure proves you can run but you can't hide. OK, now I am making myself laugh! The very idea that I am a grown up and HIDING! Maybe I should try it again this year? What are YOUR coping techniques in a high estrogen (sorry ladies, but in my situation, it's more the women) zone?
posted by Anonymous | 7:07 AM
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"I have a job, a great job". Do you know how many others would love to say that including me? You have such a blessing there.
I hope that your Thanksgiving day is a special one for you.
You just have to lay it on the line - no passive-aggressive behavior, no hiding, just stand up for yourself and make your own happiness and fun out of the situation.
the other david said, "I do hide out" and my family has come to understand how overwhelmed ( and guilty) I feel at holidays. My father also found these times to be prone to depressions, he struggled through. I am not sure I could benefit from his advice if he were alive, but I know I could talk to him about it. He passed at 59 in an instant - and my world was forever changed. I am cooking turkey and such for all three of my kids and forgoing the larger gathering 3 hours away. I just don't have the heart for it this year. I like my new place. it will be good
I won't comment on the "hormonal" issues you referred to. But I know that when you miss Medium it has to be serious.
Know what you mean about the family drama. There are family gatherings where I've felt that nothing less than showing up with the Nobel Prize would work.
A sense of humor is what gets me through the drama. That and the ability to walk away when things get heated or tense.
I feel like I'm the only one on my mother's estrogen laden side of the family with a sense of humor.
Good Luck and Happy Thanksgiving!
~Jodi
David, I feel awful complaining about work. I shouldn't have. I just want a day off really badly. You have a Happy Thanksgiving too! Lauri, I am going to keep my chin up! Other David - take care! Snake...you crack me up! Lilly, thank you darling! Melinda, that made me laugh too! Jodi, I do have a good sense of humor so maybe I should try to rely on it.
Hey WW - doesn't everyone pretty much say that holidays are the most stressful times of the year. I don't know why that is except that we expect more that can be delivered. Also all the work involved, for example to fix a T-day dinner and then it is over in two hours tops.
Don't hide from that stress just tell them all to cook their own dinner and watch the ball games (which is what I do with a couple of cold ones and a bowl of unshelled peanuts). Family expects too much too often. Happy T-Day to you. Old Baldy
Oh, how I want a great job. In my case, I'm remembering to be thankful that I've had great jobs in the past that have provided excellent fodder for my resume so that I may secure ANOTHER great job.
WW, I wish I could offer advice. Me, I'm having a "sit down" with my in-laws tomorrow afternoon to discuss why they think I am disdainful of them. This ought to be good.
For some strange reason I got the feelin' your gonna be awright. You just go there, give it yer best shot. I for one am hoping you have a wonderfull day. I don't usually say this, cause I ain't the church goin' type, but it helps to say a little prayer quietly beforehand. Peace be with you.
Smiling and nodding always work for me. It's like dealing with someone who speaks a foreign language. Okay, maybe I don't really do that the whole time. The rest of the time I listen. I try not to agree or disagree, just listen. When things get hairy, I change the subject by starting a kitchen fire. Okay, so I haven't HAD to do that yet, but it sure is a funny backup plan in my mind. I hope your holiday surprises you and you have a wonderful time. Think of work as the best of both worlds. You get to see the excitement on the people's faces as they choose the perfect gifts. That is almost as fun as watching people unwrap theirs from you.
Happy Thanksgiving!
Lois Lane
I refuse to play that game. Two of my kids are always at each other's throats. I do not take sides and I pretend not to notice the stress and strain. Resolve to maintain your cool no matter what happens, and it will usually work out. If it doesn't, it will not have been your fault.
My coping techniques in a high estrogen zone: Breathe deep. Breathe slow. Raid the fridge. Bitch at unsuspecting spouse/companion. Feel much better (me, not him).
:-)
I've still never figured it out. I get nervous and act like a clown. I'm always overdressed and I get picked on for that.
This year I wore jogging pants and I didn't get picked on.
But I still acted like a clown.
Oh well, it's a good thing they love me anyway.
MsAmber
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